Living with a partner with ADHD often means taking on more than you signed up for. The same concerns get raised and don't resolve. You find yourself compensating in ways you didn't anticipate: your partner lets slip, absorbing the consequences of decisions that weren't yours, quietly reorganizing your life around what isn't getting done. At some point the balance of the relationship starts to feel less like a partnership and more like a responsibility.
What makes this so difficult to navigate is that you can't always tell how much is ADHD and how much is something else — about your partner, about the relationship, or about what you're willing to accept. You may have read about ADHD and tried to understand that time blindness isn't indifference and forgotten commitments aren't carelessness. Knowing that doesn't always make it easier to live with.
My work in my Denver practice with people with ADHD — in skills groups, in assessment, and in individual therapy spanning more than a decade — has given me a close understanding of how ADHD operates in relationships from multiple angles.
What therapy can offer in this situation is less about managing your partner and more about figuring out what you need and what you want the relationship to look like going forward. That understanding helps whether or not your partner changes.
If this is the dynamic you're in, I'm glad to discuss it.